Saturday, October 16, 2010

Q&A: Cambodian deportee’s wife talks about moving back to her homeland

Marley Dang, the 3-year-old son of a local Cambodian awaiting deportation. (Photo: Vyreak Sovan)
Friday, October 15th, 2010
Posted by Holly Otterbein
Philadelphia CityPaper (Pennsylvania, USA)

Last week, I wrote about Mout Iv, a Cambodian refugee, Olney denizen and American permanent resident for the last 24 years, who was awaiting deportation — and other local Cambodians like him, who have been deported recently because of criminal convictions (a fact that fits squarely into President Obama's immigration policy aimed at deporting more people with criminal backgrounds, regardless of how old their convictions are or whether they're refugees, apparently).

After the story went to print, I interviewed a Cambodian refugee named Lynn, who lived most of her life in Philadelphia, until her husband, Saul, was deported to Cambodia in 2007 for a crime he committed 10 years prior. His crime was theft by stolen property; according to Lynn, he bought a stolen car from a friend. Saul came to the U.S. when he was 3 years old, and Lynn was 4 months old when she landed here. They now live in Phnom Penh, Cambodia. Lynn told me, "I am not very good with details or my feelings," but still agreed to talk. This is my interview with her:

City Paper: Why did you decide to move to Cambodia with Saul? Not every wife does.

Lynn: My husband was deported on June 24, 2007 … a couple weeks later my daughter was born. I never really thought that he was going to get deported because there were rumors that Cambodia wasn't accepting people back and then when it happened, I was kind of in shock. During his deportation process, I already knew I was coming to Cambodia. In January 2008, my children and I arrived in Cambodia. I moved to Cambodia because I wanted my children to be with their father, and I wanted my husband and daughter to meet each other.



CP: More than 30 percent of Cambodians live below the poverty line. Have you found work there?

Lynn: There are not many jobs opportunities here. It is hard for my husband to find a job. I can find one easier than him because of my passport. There is a lot of poverty. Majority of the people is trying to make it through the day. The government doesn't give assistance.

CP: During your husband's deportation process, did you find your lawyer helpful? And what about the lawyer your husband dealt with during his '97 conviction?

Lynn: [During his trial], he pleaded guilty to get a lesser sentence and his [public defender] didn't explain to him that it can get him deported. … After his back judge gave him early parole, immigration picked my husband in December 2003 and took him to York. There we hired an immigration lawyer who took our money and didn't do anything for us. The lawyer told my husband that if he signed out and they don't deport him within six months, they will release him, so my husband signed out. He had to report to ICE once a month. To make a long story short, ICE picked him up on January 2007 and started his deportation process.

CP: Do you speak the language?

Lynn: We speak enough Khmer to communicate with the locals. Sometimes they have trouble understanding us and we have trouble understanding them.

CP: After living in Philly for so long, what has Phnom Penh been like?

Lynn: Living here is different. My first couple of months, I experienced culture shock and it can get pretty lonely without family and friends. The life here is really slow-paced so we get to spend more time with each other. My feelings toward living here is Cambodia is [it's] a fun country to visit, but to live here is a whole different story — especially if you have family somewhere else. Both of our immediate family is still in the states. Our parents, brothers and sisters, nieces and nephews, and his kids from his previous marriage.

12 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hi Lynn, Luckily you have Cambodia to live after your husband was deported. Let restart your life in your homeland again.

Cheer

Anonymous said...

Wrong move,
you should continue your new life without him.

Anonymous said...

ONE BIG MISTAKE GURL!

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Anonymous said...

Nothing is matter as long as they are together. If she wants to move back to the state. She can. Cann't she?

Anonymous said...

All of the above poster's are moron. Wait until their family is affected.

KhmerIsrael said...

I think she did the right thing. In doing so she shows strong moral of being committed to her husband.

Anonymous said...

11:42, I agree. Plus she have her passport, so she can come and go as she please.
This a story of true love. Got bless them.

Anonymous said...

អាហ៊ុន សែន អាក្បត់ជាតិ។​

USA khmer kid said...

That is absolutley right on..!

I feel for those young man who are being deported back to the homeland.

this is partly we dont' have leadership in our family, community, etc.... some of us who unfortunately will get lost.

DO yo see any viet nam kid being deported, or other nationality...not just inside outside cambodia, even in US we all need to stand up do a compaining for brother and sister in the future generation to come.

please help one another and don't let this happen to our future generation... we must protect our future.


sincerely ... USA KHMER KIDS>>.

Fed Up Khmer Person said...

I'm going to sound harsh to many people, but good riddance to bad apples. How many people who are hard working, talented, skilled, and grateful long for a life in America? So many productive and hard working people dream about one day coming to America to find work and helping their families. Impoverish conditions in America to them are normal and they would be more than willing to take the place of the thug who squandered their chances and opportunities away by committing crimes, often times victimizing other Khmer people in the process.

There are plenty of hard working good Khmer people who have worked hard all their lives in America and earned a good life for themselves without committing a single crime. They are good citizens who did not expect a hand out and did not play the victim to society. Let us keep those who have contributed nothing but positive things to society and send the ungrateful back to Cambodia and let America make room for hungrier people who want to succeed.

The deportees only changed their lives around after their imprisonment. Sure no one is perfect, but why wait until you’re convicted of a crime to “turn your life around”? You know how many millions of people who would kill to be living in America and to take their place? They had their chance and they pissed it away by being gang bangers and thugs when their parents worked so hard to bring them in America with nothing but the clothes on their backs to a land of opportunities. How they fled their war torn country, risking their lives for the future of their children who turned out to be lazy gang bangers and criminals.

I don’t see the deportation as a second punishment as many people do. I see it as cleaning up and tying lose ends. No one is getting punished twice. The bill states that any country that refuses to take back their convicted criminals will lose aid and be denied future Visas by any future applicants to come to America legally. Why should the Cambodian government jeopardize future opportunities for good hard working people by refusing to take back convicted criminals? America has no obligations to non citizens and why keep convicted criminals when they are not your own?

I feel bad for the wife, but I really question her choice of men.

-Fed up Khmer person

Fed Up Khmer Person said...

For those of you who think that Cambodians are the only ones getting deported, think again. Vietnam accepts deportees in the same manner: http://www.nytimes.com/2008/01/23/world/americas/23iht-vietnam.1.9430402.html