A SOULLESS NATION:
In Need of Principles of First Things
Theary C. Seng |
The Lesser-Among-Evils Mentality
We are a soul-less nation. We have lost our moral bearings. We have reduced our choices to scraps and tattered spoils.
Among the countless legacies left by the Khmer Rouge - the 2 million deaths—there is one that is particularly damaging and darkening to the soul, the prevailing mentality (and I believe, an existing reality) that everything Khmer and in Cambodia is relegated to a choice of "the lesser among evils": of all the bad choices before us, this is the less bad; this election is free, fair and peaceful as it counted only 5 political deaths in comparison to the 25 of the last one; one-third percent abject poverty rate is nothing in comparison to the cannibalism under the Khmer Rouge; so what if there are charges of corruption, the judiciary is not independent, and standards are sub-international - the Khmer Rouge Tribunal will move ahead.
For a long time to come, Pol Pot's Khmer Rouge is and will be the yardstick that Khmers and foreigners alike use for anything happening in Cambodia; everything Khmer will be judged in light of the blackness of the Khmer Rouge years, leading to a pervasive mentality of using the darkest anything as the point of reference.
Is it any wonder then, that we Khmers, are so easily pleased, to paraphrase C.S. Lewis, to making mud pies in the slum because we cannot imagine one day by the sea?
To contrast, in a healthy society, people freely debate and ponder whether in a particular situation "the best is the enemy of the good"; their choices are among the excellent and the good, whereas we Khmers are satisfied to choose among the crumbs, the crumbling and the seriously flawed.
This current Royal Government of Cambodia is very keen to distance itself and to whitewash its history from the Khmer Rouge. This RGC is very keen and quick to make cheap, superficial pronouncements for morality - e.g., banning phones and miniskirts, shutting down karaoke parlors, adopting an anti-adultery law, implementing detention rules in contravention to juvenile rights in response to the Bong Thom gang problems etc. - acknowledgements that we are unwell as a society.
These acts have the appearance of cures and taking the high road of morality, but they are meaningless quick-fixes that do nothing to heal the nation and mend the shredded moral fabric. They ring hollow because we have lost our soul; we are crushed in spirit. We, as a nation, are in need of finding our soul and renewing our spirit.
To do so, we must instill in ourselves and in our children fundamental ideas universally accepted which form the principles of first things. We, Khmers, are more than ever in need of fresh reminders of what those principles are.
Principles of First Things
Stephen R. Covey writes persuasively of habits and principles that lead to effective and successful individuals. But those concepts are also the necessary cornerstones for the health of a society, particularly our Khmer society. "Principles are like lighthouses", he writes. "They are natural laws that cannot be broken." This idea is echoed by Cecil B. deMille in his movie The Ten Commandments, "It is impossible for us to break the law. We can only break ourselves against the law."
What are some of these prerequisite principles for individual and interdependent existence?
- Fairness: out of which our whole concept of equity and justice is developed. We, Khmers, have much work to do in this area and we must begin with the independence of the judiciary, the primary organ to exact fairness.
- Integrity and honesty: they create the foundation of trust which is essential to cooperation and long-term growth. We, Khmers, are immensely distrustful of each other; we have the potential to build upon the integrity and honesty within ourselves and in our relationship to others.
- Human dignity: we have inherent value and worth; therefore they must be protected at all costs. We are a society that prizes "elitism" and demeans the vulnerable and the poor; look at the way that we drive our vehicles: it has been commented to me whether a Khmer driving a Lexus genuinely cares if s/he runs over a child begging on the street.
- Service: the idea of making a contribution. We, Khmers, are more concerned about how to line our own pockets at all costs than for the collective welfare of society. We need not look any further than the greediness of the haves in oppressing the have-nots into further poverty through feverish land-grabbing.
- Excellence (quality): Aristotle best sums up this idea: "We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit." We, Khmers, are of the mentality of doing just enough, of showing form without emphasis on substance. We teach our children how to "get around the system". Rather than building an ethics of character, we praise the "personality ethic", that there is "some quick and easy way to achieve quality of life without going through the natural process of work and growth that makes it possible... It's symbol without substance. It's the 'get-rich quick' scheme promising 'wealth without work'. And it might even appear to succeed - but the schemer remains" (Stephen R. Covey). Of those driving a Lexus around town, how many can genuinely say they earn that Lexus through honorable, honest work?
- Potential: the idea that we are embryonic and can grow and develop and release more and more potential, develop more and more talents. I am daily appalled by the loss of human potential of the young in this society because of the lack of opportunities before them; to me, this loss of potential ranks as one of the crimes against humanity.
- Responsibility: the idea that at the end of the day, we are held personally answerable for our conduct; it is the idea of the "ability" to "respond" or to choose between right and wrong. This lack of responsibility is reflected in the poor governance of national resources and the prevalence of corruption pervading all systems of Cambodia.
- Compassion and love: Webster defines "compassion" as sympathetic consciousness of other's distress with a desire to alleviate it; this is part and parcel of "love" which is the strong affection and devotion for another. In Khmer society, rather, in the words of Erich Fromm, "Today we come across an individual who behaves like an automaton... whose meaningless chatter has replaced communicative speech, whose synthetic smile has replaced genuine laughter, and whose sense of dull despair has taken the place of genuine pain." Again, the leaders, the elites and the rest of us can act more out of compassion and love toward one another, especially toward the most vulnerable, impoverished and oppressed - the majority - of our nation.
I agree with author Covey that these principles are not esoteric, mysterious or only "religious" ideas. These principles of first things are not specific to any one faith or religion. They are instead a part of all major enduring religions, social philosophies and ethical systems.
We, Khmers, are very quick to claim a cultural distinction, that these ideas are Western and do not apply to us, our history, our culture. We cannot claim the Khmer exception from them without doing damage to ourselves and our culture. To claim an exception of these principles as non-Khmer would be to claim their opposites to be Khmer; this would be absurd. The nature of these principles is self-evident. Put it another way, consider attempting to build a healthy Khmer society based on their opposites: unfairness, deceit, baseness, uselessness, mediocrity or degeneration, irresponsibility, hate as a solid foundation for personal and social development?
Let's Begin with Ourselves
Individuals compose a family. Families compose a society. Societies compose a nation. These principles must first begin with each one of us individually, which naturally affects the interaction within a family, within society and ultimately within the nation. We are crushed; we are soulless. To reclaim our national soul and revive our national spirit, we must take to heart these principles of first things. As C.S. Lewis reminds us, "In a sort of ghastly simplicity we remove the organ and demand the function. We make men without chests and expect of them virtue and enterprise. We laugh at honor and are shocked to find traitors in our midst. We castrate and bid the geldings be fruitful." Should we decide to ignore these principles, do not then be surprised at the happenings of our current society and the unveiling of a hopeless, despondent, restless future.
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Theary C. SENG
Founding President, CIVICUS: Center for Cambodian Civic Education
(She wrote this column as Executive Director of the Center for Social Development, where it was published in The Phnom Penh Post and translated into Khmer for Koh Santepheap daily, in 2007)
41 comments:
How pretentious of Theary to preach the principles that she always subordinates to her personal advantage. Hypocrite!
5:41. It is a bit suspicious that you wrote your comment 1/2 in English and 1/2 Khmer. Those that can only read one language or the other are only getting 1/2 of your profound message (insert sarcasim here)
Having been to Cambodia on many occasions to use my engineering skills in building schools for Cambodian children in some of the poorest and illiterate parts of this amazing country, I have seen all of the situations that Ms. Seng has described. The big correction I would make is that she was so nice in describing the horrific situations many khmer people endure daily, often at the hands of other Khmer.
None is so blatant as the exploitation of women and children by the by many facets of Cambodian society.
I have witnessed the brutal and inhuman results first hand when I helped build a school for an organization which rescued children from the sex trade....some as young as 5 years old!! I am a war veteran and nothing I had seen prior ripped apart my soul like these wounded children. Many of them were sold into slavery by members of their own Khmer families all while other family members, friends, and sometimes even law enforcement knew and did nothing.
These are the loss of values and dignity that I believe Ms Seng is referring.
With that I ask what you are doing to help your country regain its values and dignity? No matter what you reply, only you and God know the truth and I say, "If you are not part of the solution, then you are without a doubt, part of the problem."
Any person willingly involved with abusing children should not ever see the light of day again, but the best way to kill a serpent is to cut off the head and the rest will die. You tell us (hopefully in all one language) which country the head of this venomous snake sleeps.
Dear 716PM,
How noble of you and your altruism to expressed view and support for Soulless Teary Seng.
Sometimes when one is deeply involved in own gains either materials or glory,that same one forgot what he/she really was about.
You may have seen and lately helped Cambodians, but I have and always live since my birth as Khmer from toe to head whether in war times or peace times. Unlike one you are advocating for here standing on the deads shoulders to proclaim she is the GIANT. That's all I said here.
Take this, broken bell and drum sounds intimidating but the truth reveals all are empty.
To brag is to unbecome.
You seemed and sounded nice but you raised a finger on and at me,where are the rest?
In abroad and domestic, I indivi-dually have done my parts long time ago in any mean necessary and still doing it to speak as a Khmer in the name of my heritage and origin.
Yet I had never shed my nature or birth for the conveniences from others, unlike some.
In short,Theary Seng has NOT earned a place yet to undress others.
You are on the money,Theary Seng is lost all of what she is out to undo.
Theary is walking in Emperor clothes now.
7:16PM,
Any person willingly involved with abusing children should not ever see the light of day again, but the best way to kill a serpent is to cut off the head and the rest will die.
You tell us (hopefully in all one language) which country the head of this venomous snake sleeps.
I have to look for it but here is my answer to you in US written language:
PS: I know aht I said here, God is not part of my conversation here. God is an abstarct and not existed.
Snake's head rests in Washington DC, body lays in UN in New York,sexual organ lives in EU origin countries while its tail hides in Beijing Tien An Mien square.
From 5:41PM
And the chilren on which they feast are in Cambodia. Cut off the food chain and the disgusting pedophiles that come to cambodia to feed their hunger have no reason to go there.
It’s despicable to read some of the above comments. They sound familiar and similar to the ones written by a lose cannon (Narankiri Kdet), who can not go through the day without insulting someone.
What’s the matter with these people? Theary is entitled to her opinion, whether some freaking people like it a not. If Theary’s opinion bothers them that much, why can’t they write something intelligently to repudiate her opinion?
As for her alledged personal gain, I don’t see any issue here. If Theary is doing something that serves her interest, but at the sametime benefits our community, it’s a win-win situation. Isn’t that good? Well, I guess some freaking jerks always find a reason to talk trash no matter what.
10:39PM,
Sure it sounds like you are upset with yourself.
It's not an insult but the truth about the converted butterflies like.
To agree with you, Narankiri Khim Tith likes to boast that appears to be the case of the Teary Virgin in here.
To Ppopple who posted statements about Theary Seng:
It is easy to criticize Soulless Theary Seng,but can you do half or even 1/4 percent as well as her?
I don't think most of us can. Please be considered when you post the statement about someone else.
This is no joke!
All of you scum bags that dissed Theary have no ideas that KI-Media is Theary's Blog, do you?
Be warned...Theary knows exactly who all of you scum bags are!!!
So, please refrain from being a jackass Mesdames et Messieurs esp. those Old Farts warriors that can't seem to keep your motor-mouth running...Is that clear enough for you scum bags???
This is the first and the last warning that you scum bags ever get!!!
cambodia needs good education and training in professionalism, good ethics, morality, etc, really! that's where we see most of the problems came from, from the lack of these life guides and rules and regulations that make a society or country develop, prosperous, etc, really!
that said, of course a small sector of society, especially those old farts that came from old-fashioned, outdated school who are now getting real old and dying, etc will show some kind of resistance, but we know that there are more to cambodia than just those old farts, sinile folks who always bad-mouthing the new generation of this or that. well, cambodia don't wait for them, we will rejoice when they all passed away due to their old age, then cambodia will start new and will be better than the past, i'm sure. may god bless my country cambodia always.
old farts always show jealousy. well, time will catch up with them soon rather than later, really! those old farts, i will never follow in their footstep to destruction again, you know. god bless my country cambodia always.
Theary, That's sexy!
Soulmateless!!!!
Is Theary working as an undercover spy for Hun Sen. How could she roam in Cambodia and trash talk her opponents? Take her word with a grain of salt. We can comment her on her effort to make Cambodia a better place. Hun Sen and co. think they are doing it, so is she. Let's not blame her or anybody else. We live in a post trauma from Pol Pot. Be optimistic, because we are handling the trauma better than anybody else in the world. People hang themselves just by witnessing the execution and torture. We are doing a lot better already, although much is to be done. Time will cure us. Give ourself time. Don't go and trash talk the CPP either. Time will past, so will they. Unity is the loftifest goal for us know. Be united with those in suffering and the ignorants that are turning a blind eye. United we will defeat all enemies.
Pardon me, i am not trying to be sexism but does she need to show this kind of picture. It is only the picture she may have for posting.
She looks nice and sexy and that's good for her being this way but it is necessary to show here fro comletely different issue rather than keep it and show it when she wants to post another blog on how to dress up and look attrative and gonig out for social party or enjoy life...
break the old taboo and you will free yourself from bad tradition and bad culture, ok! cambodia is the new thinking era, ok!
Dear Ms.Theary C. Seng,
First of all you are doing a good things for Khmer people as a whole.
I have one thing to please do not poses yourself in this kind of clothing you are very pretty and intelligent and could be one day lead ours women and girls whose look up to you with you as a role models. I know you are growing up in the western influences, you are still a khmer women you should hold on to tradition as much as you can, please don't reveal yourself too much. The pretty inside you are much more to offer to khmer girls and women. Please... Please Please.
To 4:34 AM
You need to grow up! Do you realize this is the year of 2012?
You need to leave your old ass (Khmer) mentality in a Phnom Penh sewer.
She is perfectly dressed you troll.
Apsaras were full of dignity and self-confidence in wearing no cover on upper body.
If Theary goes with topless she would look like Indradevi,real Khmer woman of high class of organic to show.
Let's put to vote:
Topless.....Yes
Topless.....No
5:31
Start with your wife and your daughter first
5:31=5:32
5:32
Topless all the way.....please!
6:21,
STFU! Have some common sense.
OK 6:53AM,
have a little sense of humor and start with your wife first, OK, really but i will close my eyes, really.
I don't want to see how ugly she would be, OK? Really!!!
7:28,
Your ignorant attempt to hurt my feeling failed......miserably.
Now, since my wife play no role in this argument, it's only fair that I should tell you to go suck your daddy's dick.
I apologize first hand for those who came across my post.
I had to stoop this low to get her attention.
She claimed that Khmer language face crisis and Cambodia may be the nation of loss soul. Well, by the way she put her picture on KI blog, she herself loss dignity and conscious. She seems to be hypocrite when it comes to criticize others but now her credential is in doubt.
Don't make me wrong, I like the way she looks and dress and appears sexy. It is pretty, gorgeous and bed time story. If she used this photo with Playboy bog, I would support her all the way. And If she used her other previous pictures with this article, I would pray for her good work. I am not conservative person, but I dress up when time is right. My wife dresses up nicely in traditional clothes when we are in a pagoda but at home or party, or dine out for our privacy, you all don't believe, if I told you.
I feel sorry for a lost-soul like you 8:04 AM!
Well 8:04AM was just trying to put her broken English of the 3rd grade together to keep up with the rest of the soulless Khmer here I guessed...Who could blame her?
Just-passing-by
8:04,
Are you angry at her dress? Is that it?
Get over it! This is modern days, if you haven't notice.
Why some people have a rude mentality towards this woman ?
She is free to express her opinion.If the person does not like the message,just skip it and let others who want to read,to hear!
Thank you .
I don't care about anything else at the moment, except to admire Theary's natural beauty! No excessive make-up, no faked, or bought, or enhanced items, but plenty of intellect, you are sexy, Theary!
If you would drop the big blink-blink, and put on a finer and ahorter strand of necklace, it would bring out even more of your natural goddness. Better yet, no blink-blink at all!
Infatution aside, I really like this post and actually read it, too.
Thank you Theary.
Justin
all these negive aspects of socity existed before the khmer rouge came to power
your wrong as always theary
Please don't take what Seng Theary has said for granted because after she smoked cigar too much, it makes her wants to say something to get media attention.
Pang Sokheoun, General-Secretary of SRP in Sweden.
Why Theary posts the picture of her wearing only a bra and claimed as CIVICUS of whatever it is?
As an activist, a writer or whatever she may be, this mere naked body of Theary does not justify the "dignity" and "integrity" at all.
Theary! your article is good but the picture you post with this article appears to be for a night club, part or ready to go to bed or ready to begin the act of seduction.
Instead of soul-less nation, how about a naked-body nation?
You know, no on ecan figure out what you do or what you plan to do, because you did too many bizarre things for the past few years, of course we gave you some credits for the good deeds, but your behavior is like a mentally patient who cannot live without taking medicine to stay on the right course, or otherwise you would be gone crazy like posting the-naked picture with a good article.
Why Theary posts the picture of her wearing only a bra and claimed as CIVICUS of whatever it is?
As an activist, a writer or whatever she may be, this mere naked body of Theary does not justify the "dignity" and "integrity" at all.
Theary! your article is good but the picture you post with this article appears to be for a night club, party or ready to go to bed or ready to begin the act of seduction.
Instead of soul-less nation, how about a naked-body nation?
You know, no one can figure out what you do or what you plan to do, because you did too many bizarre things for the past few years, of course we gave you some credits for the good deeds, but your behavior is like a mentally ill patient who cannot live without taking medicine to stay on the right course, or otherwise you would be gone crazy like posting the-naked picture with a good article.
It's hot in Cambodia!
Wat do you all want? Butt naked? Uh ah!!!
8:26 AM, Who the F*** are you anyway ?????
Whatever you want her to be 1:37AM, this is a Wide word Web...
What a group of hypocrite Khmer men. They felt ashamed for
the country merely when they saw a beautiful body of Khmer lady
exposed just a little bit. They confused the real skin color
with the closely matched color of the clothes. Human sexual
organs are to be precise to say of,that's what they felt
uncomfortable to see in public.
But they all like to see the sex organs of the tree,bush and
flower plants.
They love flowers,buy and sell flowers by the tons daily for
decoration. They smell them and send them to theirs lovers.
Even their Buddha was depicted in painting as being sitting
on the sex organ of the lotus plant! Are they thinking
that Khmer Angkor were dumb to display stone Linguam and
Yony in the temples or even worship them ? Aren't they
love Apsara's boobs ?.
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