Thursday, December 09, 2010

In response to Neatee Koun Khmers' topic of Responsibility: A SOULLESS NATION

A SOULLESS NATION: In Need of Principles of First Things



Theary Seng, NYC, Nov. 2010
First published in The Phnom Penh Post as part of the Voice of Justice columns, with Khmer translation in Koh Santepheap, 2007.

The Lesser-Among-Evils Mentality

We are a soul-less nation. We have lost our moral bearings. We have reduced our choices to scraps and tattered spoils.

Among the countless legacies left by the Khmer Rouge - the 2 million deaths - there is one that is particularly damaging and darkening to the soul, the prevailing mentality (and I believe, an existing reality) that everything Khmer and in Cambodia is relegated to a choice of "the lesser among evils": of all the bad choices before us, this is the less bad; this election is free, fair and peaceful as it counted only 5 political deaths in comparison to the 25 of the last one; one-third percent abject poverty rate is nothing in comparison to the cannibalism under the Khmer Rouge; so what if there are charges of corruption, the judiciary is not independent, and standards are sub-international - the Khmer Rouge Tribunal will move ahead.

For a long time to come, Pol Pot's Khmer Rouge is and will be the yardstick that Khmers and foreigners alike use for anything happening in Cambodia; everything Khmer will be judged in light of the blackness of the Khmer Rouge years, leading to a pervasive mentality of using the darkest anything as the point of reference.

Is it any wonder then, that we Khmers, are so easily pleased, to paraphrase C.S. Lewis, to making mud pies in the slum because we cannot imagine one day by the sea?

To contrast, in a healthy society, people freely debate and ponder whether in a particular situation "the best is the enemy of the good"; their choices are among the excellent and the good, whereas we Khmers are satisfied to choose among the crumbs, the crumbling and the seriously flawed.

This current Royal Government of Cambodia is very keen to distance itself and to whitewash its history from the Khmer Rouge. This RGC is very keen and quick to make cheap, superficial pronouncements for morality - e.g., banning phones and miniskirts, shutting down karaoke parlors, adopting an anti-adultery law, implementing detention rules in contravention to juvenile rights in response to the Bong Thom gang problems etc. - acknowledgements that we are unwell as a society.

These acts have the appearance of cures and taking the high road of morality, but they are meaningless quick-fixes that do nothing to heal the nation and mend the shredded moral fabric. They ring hollow because we have lost our soul; we are crushed in spirit. We, as a nation, are in need of finding our soul and renewing our spirit.

To do so, we must instill in ourselves and in our children fundamental ideas universally accepted which form the principles of first things. We, Khmers, are more than ever in need of fresh reminders of what those principles are.

Principles of First Things

Stephen R. Covey writes persuasively of habits and principles that lead to effective and successful individuals. But those concepts are also the necessary cornerstones for the health of a society, particularly our Khmer society. "Principles are like lighthouses", he writes. "They are natural laws that cannot be broken." This idea is echoed by Cecil B. deMille in his movie The Ten Commandments, "It is impossible for us to break the law. We can only break ourselves against the law."

What are some of these prerequisite principles for individual and interdependent existence?
  • Fairness: out of which our whole concept of equity and justice is developed. We, Khmers, have much work to do in this area and we must begin with the independence of the judiciary, the primary organ to exact fairness.
  • Integrity and honesty: they create the foundation of trust which is essential to cooperation and long-term growth. We, Khmers, are immensely distrustful of each other; we have the potential to build upon the integrity and honesty within ourselves and in our relationship to others.
  • Human dignity: we have inherent value and worth; therefore they must be protected at all costs. We are a society that prizes "elitism" and demeans the vulnerable and the poor; look at the way that we drive our vehicles: it has been commented to me whether a Khmer driving a Lexus genuinely cares if s/he runs over a child begging on the street.
  • Service: the idea of making a contribution. We, Khmers, are more concerned about how to line our own pockets at all costs than for the collective welfare of society. We need not look any further than the greediness of the haves in oppressing the have-nots into further poverty through feverish land-grabbing.
  • Excellence (quality): Aristotle best sums up this idea: "We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit." We, Khmers, are of the mentality of doing just enough, of showing form without emphasis on substance. We teach our children how to "get around the system". Rather than building an ethics of character, we praise the "personality ethic", that there is "some quick and easy way to achieve quality of life without going through the natural process of work and growth that makes it possible... It's symbol without substance. It's the 'get-rich quick' scheme promising 'wealth without work'. And it might even appear to succeed - but the schemer remains" (Stephen R. Covey). Of those driving a Lexus around town, how many can genuinely say they earn that Lexus through honorable, honest work?
  • Potential: the idea that we are embryonic and can grow and develop and release more and more potential, develop more and more talents. I am daily appalled by the loss of human potential of the young in this society because of the lack of opportunities before them; to me, this loss of potential ranks as one of the crimes against humanity.
  • Responsibility: the idea that at the end of the day, we are held personally answerable for our conduct; it is the idea of the "ability" to "respond" or to choose between right and wrong. This lack of responsibility is reflected in the poor governance of national resources and the prevalence of corruption pervading all systems of Cambodia.
  • Compassion and love: Webster defines "compassion" as sympathetic consciousness of other's distress with a desire to alleviate it; this is part and parcel of "love" which is the strong affection and devotion for another. In Khmer society, rather, in the words of Erich Fromm, "Today we come across an individual who behaves like an automaton... whose meaningless chatter has replaced communicative speech, whose synthetic smile has replaced genuine laughter, and whose sense of dull despair has taken the place of genuine pain." Again, the leaders, the elites and the rest of us can act more out of compassion and love toward one another, especially toward the most vulnerable, impoverished and oppressed - the majority - of our nation.
I agree with author Covey that these principles are not esoteric, mysterious or only "religious" ideas. These principles of first things are not specific to any one faith or religion. They are instead a part of all major enduring religions, social philosophies and ethical systems.

We, Khmers, are very quick to claim a cultural distinction, that these ideas are Western and do not apply to us, our history, our culture. We cannot claim the Khmer exception from them without doing damage to ourselves and our culture. To claim an exception of these principles as non-Khmer would be to claim their opposites to be Khmer; this would be absurd. The nature of these principles is self-evident. Put it another way, consider attempting to build a healthy Khmer society based on their opposites: unfairness, deceit, baseness, uselessness, mediocrity or degeneration, irresponsibility, hate as a solid foundation for personal and social development?

Let's Begin with Ourselves
Individuals compose a family. Families compose a society. Societies compose a nation. These principles must first begin with each one of us individually, which naturally affects the interaction within a family, within society and ultimately within the nation. We are crushed; we are soulless. To reclaim our national soul and revive our national spirit, we must take to heart these principles of first things. As C.S. Lewis reminds us, "In a sort of ghastly simplicity we remove the organ and demand the function. We make men without chests and expect of them virtue and enterprise. We laugh at honor and are shocked to find traitors in our midst. We castrate and bid the geldings be fruitful." Should we decide to ignore these principles, do not then be surprised at the happenings of our current society and the unveiling of a hopeless, despondent, restless future.

Theary C. SENG
Executive Director

17 comments:

Anonymous said...

I enjoyed reading the article, Theary. Cambodians can read this again and again and again if we are to change this mentality.

Anonymous said...

Blak eyes fit better in you face sister.

Anonymous said...

Beautiful writing, beautiful author.

Anonymous said...

The dragon is always hungry and he will not let go whence he catches his prey. Bondage of any people starts with spiritual blindness. Because it is true this will darken the nation as a whole. The lord of the darkness is to destroy until there's none to is left.

Anonymous said...

ABSOLUTELY.

The currently leading party, been leading with all kind of bad examples.

They leading with no kind of BACKBONES at all. After 30 years, no resignation, what so ever.

More curruptions, the country poor, getting poorer.

Anonymous said...

It going to get worse, when bad foreigner moved in to Cambodia and get elected!

Anonymous said...

help needed: how can this article be viewed in Khmer?
Thanks.

Anonymous said...

I agree with one of the blogger earlier who said Cambodian are mostly still in a spiritual bondage. Only Jesus can set us free. So let's all repent, turn from our wicked way to God and ask him to heal us mentally and spiritually. Only Almighty God can bless our nation and heal our land.

Anonymous said...

i think if activists want to make a real difference in cambodia, they all should concentrate on fighting or demand the true independence of the cambodian judicial system, and not so much attack on gov't on a personal level, but on a national level like what the country need to reform or improve in order for the people to have a better life, etc... that's better than nonsense, personal attack or political attack, which gets you nowhere, but stress and frustration and so forth, really!

Anonymous said...

12:11 AM, dump, Jesus would be worse.
If you are a little bit smarter,
you would know how hard Chistians oppressed Europeans until 19 century..

Anonymous said...

2:31AM! everhurd ah Kwack claim he run Cambodia! don't you think we should hang motherfucker first?

Anonymous said...

2:31AM! do you ever heard Un attack Hun Sen or the system latley or years ago?

And who personally attack UN's personel????? If not Mr. Hun Sen it mast be ah Kwack Hun Xen choymaray!@

Anonymous said...

:31AM! do you ever heard Un attack Hun Sen personly or it attack only the system, latley or years ago?

And who personally attack UN's personel????? If not Mr. Hun Sen it must be ah Kwack Hun Xen choymaray!@

3:41 AM

Anonymous said...

Thanks Theary, yours always well thought. I have Steven Corevy on shelf man years ago, but couldn't have the courage to pick it up, read it, and finish reading it. Now I will make the effort to do so.

Anonymous said...

Le texte es très bien équilibré, Dear Theary S.!
J'espère que, il y ait davantage des gens --les dirigeants d'abord-- apprennent à réfléchir à la manière que vous leur apportiez, par ce rédaction. Et secundo, que les parents de l'actuelle génération cessent d'évoquer à leur progéniture des facilités quant à vivre leur vie, bêtir leur avenit et surtout rendre dynamique leur Nation & Société qui leur donnent naissance. Dieu préserve notre patrie, à la même manière que vous avez révélée.

Anonymous said...

Le texte est très bien équilibré, Dear Theary S.!
J'espère qu'il y ait davantage des gens --les dirigeants d'abord-- apprennent à réfléchir à la manière dont vous leur apportiez comme résolution à travers cette rédaction. Et secundo, que les parents de l'actuelle génération cessent d'évoquer à leur progéniture des facilités quant à vivre leur vie, bâtir leur avenir et surtout rendre dynamique leur Nation, société qui leur donne naissance. Dieu préserve notre patrie, à la même manière que vous avez révélée

Anonymous said...

Great.... if we can just achieve this level of enlightenment in a single lifetime all would be just grand. Good effort.
To the question of what's missing or what's wrong with Khmer society, one could claim just about anything and hit the mark, no sport there. A deceptively simple perspective I picked up from a colleague that's lived the world over: In some of the countries he's lived, there was a collective consciousness of a standard for how they and their countrymen should live. In other places this was completely absent. The former peoples worked harder to raise the collective standard. The latter relished in their superiority among inferior peers. The 'relishing' in Cambodia that truly cuts across all political spectrum. Ti